Identity Crisis: Who Are You?

There has been a lot of fussing and fuming within the greater Pagan community, just lately, over Facebook’s policy regarding names.  The specific cause of this upset, is a recent change in that policy which has resulted in the closure of several accounts that did not utilize a legal or ‘true’ name, according to the Facebook terms of Service.

I’ve seen a number of people alleging that this policy amounts to discrimination against religious minorities, on the basis that many of those folks interact with each other, sometimes even publishing, using spiritual or ‘magical’ names that do not otherwise appear in their ‘mundane’ lives.

There are also those who only feel free to be themselves online, when using an assumed name, for fear that friends, family, and business associates will turn against them if the truth about their beliefs is revealed.

I feel like I have covered my feelings on these topics here before, and from a number of different perspectives.

For the most part, I wish people would just be upfront about who and what they are and let the chips fall where they may.  What little advantage we have as individuals, hiding in the shadows, teaching our children that it’s not okay to express our beliefs in mixed company, is far outweighed by what we have to gain, as a community, by letting the world see how many of us there really are, and that we are not the frightening creatures they have been led to believe in.

Whatever strides we have made, as a people, in the area of civil rights, or equal rights for women, or the newly won equality in marriage rights for homosexual couples, these things did not come to pass because people where skulking about, in superficial safety, using assumed names.

This not-so-sudden identity crisis certain folks are having, dovetails nicely into some thoughts I was trying to express here back in 2012, and which I feel could use repeating in the here and now…,

Who Are You?

It seems like a simple question, but try to answer it anyway.

Did you answer with your name?  Is that who you are?  Because with a few exceptions, that name was picked out for you and is the least likely thing to say anything about who you really are?

Are you defined by your familial relationships: parent, child, brother, cousin, aunt?  Or could it be that your friendships and romantic entanglements will sufficiently outline your identity?

Perhaps you are defined by your job?  Does what you do for a living explain you?  Or maybe it’s your hobbies and interests that we should be looking at, the things you do to escape from the day-to-day grind of existence.

Is it your political or religious affiliations that delineate you from those around you?  Are you a Libertarian or a Socialist?  Do you believe in the Hebrew God, the Resurrection of Jesus, the Blessed State of Nirvana, the Majesty of Zeus or do you eschew belief in that which you can not see and touch.  Are these beliefs enough to set you apart from your fellows?

Now let me ask you one more question.  Why is it important?

Why are we so fixated on our special and unique individuality?  We strive so hard to be different from everyone else, to have our own things and the freedom to decide every little thing for ourselves but what does it gain us in the grand scheme of things?

Advice from a Caterpillar

For most of human history the concept of personal identity was subordinate to the place we held in society and the universe around us.  Ancient societies were composed of collective groups which functioned as a whole.  Today we may call them tribes or clans but structurally they were groupings of people who functioned as an interconnected unit.  The individual was there to support the tribe.  He or she may have been a hunter or a shaman, warrior or storyteller.  The point is that each person had a role to play and each role was important because, for the tribe to function, everyone had to be doing his or her part.  Identity was a function of the place you held within the tribe.

Expanding this idea outward, the tribe as a whole, held a place and function within the natural world.  Most (what we arrogantly call) primitive societies understood themselves to be an important part of the physical and spiritual landscape around them.  It was important that the tribe fulfill its role in the proper time and manner, to guarantee its own survival and discharge its duties to the land.

The gods were known to be a tribe of their own, with power and responsibilities greater than those of mortal men.  The local tribe was a physical reflection of this divine configuration and each of these tribes (gods and men) depended upon the other to accomplish its goals.  As an individual, you knew that if you failed your tribe, you endangered not only the survival of the family unit but the natural and spiritual order as well.

Setting aside simple tribal society and looking at the far more expansive Roman Empire, we can see that there was little change to this way of thinking.  Although the shear size of Roman civilization reduced the importance of any particular tribe or family within the state, a Citizen of Rome was understood to be a functioning part of an ordered society.  The standing of a citizen within the social hierarchy was integral to the success of the greater society and a benefit to the gods themselves.  Citizenship gave the Roman many individual rights that other men and women did not enjoy, but these rights came with certain expectations and obligations that guaranteed security and well being for all.

This all started to change as monotheist beliefs began to seep into the fabric of the Roman world.  As Christianity spread throughout the Roman Empire, the goals of the individual citizen began to shift and the social fabric of society was turned on its head.  Instead of a family or a tribe of gods to emulate, there was now only a single deity to mimic.  The importance of having a place within the tribe was diminished as personal salvation became the ultimate spiritual goal.

In a world that was going to end at any moment, only to be replaced by an eternal existence without pain or hardship, the immediate needs of the tribe became less vital.  Our place in the now became an afterthought, replaced by our place in the world to come and a growing fixation on our own narrow wants.

Today we find ourselves living in the sum product of that revolution.  We are a rapacious consumer society where the primary focus of each individual appears to be on their own selfish ends.

Who are you?

Look at the world around you for a moment.  Pull your attention away from your computer screen, and your smart phone and all the little toys and games you use to distract you from the universe outside and ask yourself if you really like the world you see.  If the answer is “yes” well good for you!  I appreciate your reading this far and you are welcome to keep going, but this next bit really isn’t for you.

If, like me, you do not like a lot of what you see, then you have the answer to the question I’ve been asking.  The world is a mirror of the self.  Who we are is what we see out there looking back at us.  Ad if it’s not a very pretty sight, we have only ourselves to blame.

Now I don’t want you to get the wrong idea here!  I am not against individual rights and freedoms, both of which are things to be cherished and fought for.  This is about living our beliefs, not just for ourselves but for the world around us.

Every single thing we do contributes positively or negatively to that world.  From the products we buy to the food we eat and the way in which we get ourselves from point A to point B, it is all reflected in the universe around us.  The way we live our lives has a direct effect on people, places and events far beyond our vision.

Were your clothes stitched together in a sweatshop?  Is your lawn green at the expense of drinking water downstream?  Did your chicken sandwich fund a hate group?  Will the chemicals in those AA batteries you tossed into the trash leech into the soil?  Will children go without medical care because you don’t like the government taking your money?  Do you know the answers to those questions?  Do you care?

To know thyself is to know your influence on the world around you.

If you say that you support local businesses, maybe you should embody that support by frequenting them instead of Wal-Mart and Amazon.  If you like fresh foods, find a farmers market instead of buying food out of season that has been shipped halfway across the world and pumped full of preservatives.  And if you honor the gods and traditions of your ancestors, than you should do that too, boldly and with fervor!

“Be the change you want to make,” is not a cliché, it’s the reality of the world we live in and it always has been.

If you are thinking that one person can’t possibly make a difference, you are exactly right.  Yet, what one person can’t do, a community can.  We just have to make the effort to do it together.  We must expand our focus beyond our narrow little selves and re-join the tribe of humanity.  In short, lets start giving a damn about each other for a change!

The question is not who you are but who we can be.


Filed under Culture, Modern Life, Philosophy, Religion, Traditions

5 responses to “Identity Crisis: Who Are You?

  1. YES~~~ When I compliment my husband he says the same thing every time, “I’m just me.” I like that…what or who am I? I am! Reblogging this as I’ve beat this drum for as long as I’ve been blogging (YEARS) and your words and resonance may be what a stumbler (most people who find my blog stumble in on purpose lol) to my blog needs to read! AWESOME!

  2. Reblogged this on As I see it and commented:
    Our friend Stone of Destiny has a wonderful post here – a different tapping on a very old drum. May be this beat will resonate with your heart. Thank you Stone! 🙂

  3. Very interesting and well written piece. Thanks for sharing!

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